Self Help For Low Self Esteem

November 9th, 2011 Posted in Self Improvement

Do you have a low self esteem?  Feel like you do not deserve praise?  Have you looked at yourself and discovered self destructive behaviors.  You may have a low self esteem.

In this article, we will discuss one of the most important steps to increasing your self esteem.  That is to increase your self confidence.  There are many ways to become confident, following, is a list of ways to increase your self confidence.

First, start by listing the items that you do well.  This could be helping others, your volunteer work, church work or accomplishments from your job.  Know that you are appreciated by others for what you do even though that appreciation is not always expressed.

It is important to understand your abilities and to give your best effort.  Knowing that you have given your best actually makes accepting the outcome easier.   Even if the outcome is not what you expect or not to your liking, you have given your best.  You are not able to control all the variables involved, therefore the ultimate outcome can only be influenced not dictated.

Second, use self introspection to take a look at your behavior and belief system.  Be honest and decide what about yourself you would like to change.  All of us need to be able to accept change.  As our experiences affect our belief system, and the belief system is what governs our actions, we need to be able to monitor and adjust our beliefs.

Self introspection is the method of choice to examine oneself.  Take the time periodically to ask yourself questions of self exploration and record your answers.  Keep your answers in a journal and overtime go back and look at how you answers have changed.  Accept and implement these changes into your thought and belief system.

We all change over time.  Situations that we live with change and sometimes we have no control over their change.  Therefore we must adjust.  Accept change, embrace it, analyze it and make the best of it.

Thirdly, in order to help with our self esteem, we need to know where we are going.  One of the best ways that I know of doing this is to write down a list of goals.

Set obtainable goals.  Make a plan of several small step by step goals that when all the steps are completed, you have attained a significant accomplishment.  By setting obtainable goals, you remain enthusiastic and energized.

The fourth idea to increase self esteem  is to take the time to reward yourself.  When we obtain a goal, give yourself time to celebrate and enjoy the moment of accomplishment.  We deserve it, so let’s enjoy it.

When we receive complements for a job well done, bask in the glow of positive praise.  This is your reward enjoy it and be confident in your ability for others have recognized it.

Developing a positive view of oneself is a work in progress.  Self confidence is an important part of the self esteem equation.  Always ask questions of yourself and others.  Know that through questioning and examination,  we are able to make and accept changes in ourselves and develop positive perception of oneself.